tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post6828392034804237044..comments2024-03-10T03:36:06.267-07:00Comments on Is this the middle?: Trying to understand Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01468655681800817415noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-39294705565372992182013-12-05T08:24:38.349-08:002013-12-05T08:24:38.349-08:00Hi ladies-- I was in so much distress when I wrote...Hi ladies-- I was in so much distress when I wrote this that although I read your responses, they didn't really register. Re-reading them today I am so grateful to have met you all in the blogoverse. Thanks so, so much for the words of comfort. I hope you all are well, and I haven't given up on my blog yet. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01468655681800817415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-92208629498300553472013-10-02T07:58:10.390-07:002013-10-02T07:58:10.390-07:00I think the idea that we are sort of helpless in t...I think the idea that we are sort of helpless in the face of loss--especially someone else's--is one of those very difficult life lessons that we end up learning over and over. There are no magic words, but I also think that just being willing to listen, just being present for someone else's struggle can help immeasurably in their healing. Masked Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197019009052401812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-168771483387237762013-09-29T19:42:46.344-07:002013-09-29T19:42:46.344-07:00"Words come out of your mouth, but you know t..."Words come out of your mouth, but you know they are no comfort. Or pitifully inadequate comfort."<br /><br />They may be of no comfort but they are more comforting than saying nothing at all.<br /><br />I'm so sorry for all the grief you've had laid at your feet recently. Most especially for the loss of the love of Blue.Just Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02861216483398553225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-26754431313685717292013-09-29T15:18:31.190-07:002013-09-29T15:18:31.190-07:00Wow, you have had your share of bad punches this p...Wow, you have had your share of bad punches this past while. I noticed you hadn't been blogging much lately (me, either), but then to get this heart-wrenching account of your past few weeks almost leaves me speechless. <br />It's like another blog friend I hadn't heard from for three months and the first thing I see is a blog on her diagnosis of ovarian cancer. It's so hard to know what to say or even what to think. <br />Just know I have experienced grief, knowing yours.http://solowomenathomeandabroad.blogspot.com/https://www.blogger.com/profile/00116246897231606697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-18904202843938021162013-09-25T08:05:02.873-07:002013-09-25T08:05:02.873-07:00A hundred thoughts and realizations and wonderings...A hundred thoughts and realizations and wonderings are swirling through my head, but only two seem clear enough to express: 1) I'm so sorry for the pain you're having. 2) This is some of the finest writing I've ever seen from you.Renae Rudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13624766819849341137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-80978152591497016552013-09-25T04:59:14.166-07:002013-09-25T04:59:14.166-07:00Melanie: It is so very coincidental or perhaps a ...Melanie: It is so very coincidental or perhaps a blessing that we are both experiencing sorrow at the same time. In any case, I lost my stepmother this past weekend after spending several weeks helping to care for her. I didn't want to say anything on Facebook because of the awful family dynamics that I had to endure. We buried her on Monday. I am not telling you this to get sympathy or add another burden to your load, but want to share my conclusions in hopes of helping you with your loss too. <br /><br />1) I believe that I am better off after having had Arlene in my life. She showed me how to have dignity even in the worst possible pain.<br /><br />2) Death, while our loss, is a blessing. Guess that is so because I believe in a heavenly place. She was a peace.<br /><br />3) Death gives us a reason to reflect on life and our loved ones. I for one am more appreciative of my loving family members and friends who have helped me through a very challenging time. And, I am happily relishing the joyful stories about life, including chickie stories, from those who didn’t know. <br /><br />4) When someone dies, you can reflect on all the good things that person - or kitty - brought to your life. I too have an older cat that I love so very much. She has been with me for about 15 years and was dropped off by my daughter who found her at a fast food store in Texas near the Air Force base she was at for flight training. My sweet little kitty has been with me ever since to greet me and give my fluffy warmth. Like your beloved cat before you helped her rest peacefully, she is loosing weight and is in early stages of renal failure. Your story makes me appreciate, even more, the time we have left. <br /><br />While I don't have magic words for you as you struggle through some of what you shared, dear Melanie, I truly believe we have to go through the sorrow to dance in joy for the life we are left with. When someone dies for no apparent reason, it is hard to find the good. But that is when we have to step away and find the joy in what is left. With my stepmother, I am glad I was able to do for her what my father would have wanted. There is peace in that, for sure. <br /><br />A very big hug to you and may you have a long break from any further losses. <br />Nurse Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11150885550865543802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-30826116365433425852013-09-25T03:26:08.878-07:002013-09-25T03:26:08.878-07:00Thank you, sweet Virginia. I can always rely on yo...Thank you, sweet Virginia. I can always rely on you to understand. Your prayers mean more than you know! <3Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01468655681800817415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-41443395228505733332013-09-24T22:49:31.663-07:002013-09-24T22:49:31.663-07:00I am so very sorry that you've had to feel all...I am so very sorry that you've had to feel all these losses and hurts, my dear friend, for each one takes a piece of our heart with it. I pray God gives you the strength you'll need to see yourself through this painful time.<br /><br />Please remember, dear Amiga, I love and pray for you, always.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com