tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post707615807581589854..comments2024-03-10T03:36:06.267-07:00Comments on Is this the middle?: UnbalancedAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01468655681800817415noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-60920191547595331532011-12-23T07:39:23.964-08:002011-12-23T07:39:23.964-08:00It's hard, and be prepared for people to say t...It's hard, and be prepared for people to say things to you that may unintentionally hurt. I know I have said dumb things myself to grieving people through the years, or even avoided the grieving as though I might "catch" death from them. Losing a parent is such uncharted territory that we must navigate individually. So many people have been so kind, but we have to do the hard work of grieving for ourselves.<br /><br />Don't know if any of this makes sense, but thank you for visiting, your kind comments, and for sharing what's going on in your life. Come back if you need to talk!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01468655681800817415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-7291487471888549342011-12-22T18:49:47.882-08:002011-12-22T18:49:47.882-08:00I'm happy to have found your blog :). My fath...I'm happy to have found your blog :). My father, I fear, won't be with us much longer. I live 1000 miles away from my parents and don't get to see them as often as I'd like. I find myself frequently in crying ruts - like now :). So sorry for your loss.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16917139752555698353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-10889616624918429152011-12-13T21:06:08.025-08:002011-12-13T21:06:08.025-08:00No, it's not a bad impulse at all. Grief made...No, it's not a bad impulse at all. Grief made me kinder to people, I think because those strangers carry little bits of the ones I lost. Imagine the good a hug would do!<br />Also, I had to nod and smile about the "sense of balance" statement. There were mystery bruises all over me for a year after my cousin Jeff passed away. And then the knee injury after Auntie Joan. These people anchor us, I think, and we tend to drift a bit for awhile once they're gone.<br />Hugs to you, sweet lady. This thing with the clumsiness and the crying, it does get better. I hope it gets better for you soon.Desihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10943687790013340951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-50764349489756036062011-12-13T04:51:29.900-08:002011-12-13T04:51:29.900-08:00Hi Jane,
You're right. I can hear him now, tel...Hi Jane,<br />You're right. I can hear him now, telling the story of the woman who came up and hugged him because he looked like her dad. In fact, I think that actually happened to him a time or too, and he ate it up with a spoon!<br /><br />Thanks, Paranormalist, for stopping by and the kind words.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01468655681800817415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-47607050289522988062011-12-13T01:30:59.330-08:002011-12-13T01:30:59.330-08:00What a sad and beautiful post.What a sad and beautiful post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-61462923295983799392011-12-12T11:58:57.217-08:002011-12-12T11:58:57.217-08:00From what you've told us about your flirtatiou...From what you've told us about your flirtatious, love-of-a-good-joke dad, seems to me he'd be just the type who would get tickled out of hugs from random strange women. I think maybe he'd like that you feel that way.Just Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02861216483398553225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-73109532403291067502011-12-11T21:13:36.574-08:002011-12-11T21:13:36.574-08:00Hello mi Querida Amiga! I have missed you so much....Hello mi Querida Amiga! I have missed you so much... I am very glad to read ANYTHING from you, and we are all hear for you, as you can plainly see.<br /><br />When my Daddy passed away, 5 years ago now, any old gentleman I saw with somewhat balding gray, and gray mustache and beard, I saw my Dad and wanted to run up to them and hug them. I was seeing my Dad everywhere I go. And I still on occasion see him. :)<br /><br />Remember, it alright to cry, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. We loved them for so long, how can we forget about them...EVER?<br /><br />Here's sending you BIG hugs, and a heartfelt prayer for you and your dear familia.<br /><br />~VirginiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-79451457493423313872011-12-11T19:07:43.385-08:002011-12-11T19:07:43.385-08:00It is not unusual at all to want to hug old men in...It is not unusual at all to want to hug old men in walkers. I think sometimes there is something about a person that reminds us of what we lost. It hits us at the most unusual times.<br /><br />I remember when my Dad passed away all I could do was to throw myself into work. It was the only way I could cope for the longest time. I just didn't want to talk about it. It took me over a year to begin to even mention it...<br /><br />I know how painful it is and I think it takes great strength to discuss your grief.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-6720482967360496742011-12-11T18:38:30.991-08:002011-12-11T18:38:30.991-08:00Hey sweetie! Thanks-- that's what I really nee...Hey sweetie! Thanks-- that's what I really needed to hear; that it's okay.<br />I'm working on several posts at once, but can't seem to get them whipped into shape. <br />Hope you're doing well and hugs back, my friend!<br />So enjoyed your birthday post, BTW.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01468655681800817415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3422383139355516259.post-57626887006350467592011-12-11T10:39:53.943-08:002011-12-11T10:39:53.943-08:00Just keep remembering that grief is different for ...Just keep remembering that grief is different for everyone, we handle it in our own way. It sounds to me like you are doing just fine. Those crying jags are draining, but holding it in feels like such a heavy load. I was so thrilled to see that you updated your blog. I've missed you. Hugs & <3alienbodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16553792913801374123noreply@blogger.com